Today, I found an article that brings up something I've always wondered about: being single by choice. How come we choose so often to be in relationships when they can make us so miserable? On the other hand, is there added meaning and satisfaction romantic relationships bring that single people couldn't get out of other relationships, hobbies, civic engagement, and other single-y things?
Part of me wants to be with someone, but it's also scary uncovering all of your vulnerabilities and dealing with the kinds of things you don't really fantasize about when missing companionship, everything from method of loading the dishwasher to leaving or not leaving the door open when peeing (a point of contention with many I imagine).
What do you think?
Ok, so I read the article. Interesting. I would say that being single is definitely better than being in a bad relationship, as the article points out, but I personally would still choose to be in a good relationship over being single.
ReplyDeleteI had to wonder- how many of the people who say they are choosing to be single are kidding themselves? I think it is admirable that they are taking ownership over their lives and living to the fullest, but isn't the urge to be loved by one special someone sort of universal? Maybe not, but I have a hard time believing people with realistic expectations about love and companionship would turn it down. Key words: realistic expectations. I'm guessing people who choose not to be in relationships don't have realistic expectations of what being in a relationship really is.
That's just my two cents. I would say being in a stable, loving relationship is my first choice. Being single is my second choice, and one that I am definitely coming to terms with. But one must be single in a city. Being single in Spruce Pine fuckin' sucks.